these are pics from one of the big snows we had this winter
So tonight mandolin came up to me and said "mommy, I gotta potty." She then took her pullup off, got on the toilet and went pee. We've been potty training for over 9 months and this is a major break-through. I wanted to cry. We wiped, flushed, washed hands, put our pants back on and then got a jelly bean to celebrate. If we get her trained by the time she's 3, she can go to real school. If not, it's homeschooling for her. If she isn't potty trained, she'll only be allowed in the special ed class, and she's too high functioning to be in that class, so homeschooling is the best option until she's potty trained. I'm so proud of her tonight I felt some real hope that I needed to feel.
In other news, I'm starting week 3 of running. There are 9 weeks. I think I can do this. If I finish, I'm getting the over-priced c25k t-shirt that states I was a completer.
My crack whore cousin is having a birthdya party on 4/3 for her kid but sent invitation on 3/31. Who does that? Well, crack whores apparently. I'm not going. We're going to an Easter egg hunt as a family for Mandolin. I'll mail the kid a present next week.
Next weekend I'm meeting an online weight-loss buddy for lunch on Sunday and going to my nephew's 8th britday part on saturday. They live 2 hours away now and it's going to be a pain in my butt to go. There won't be anything I can eat and there's going to be a ton of people I can't stand. I have many issues with my older sister right now. I just don't understand why someone would WANT to live with a man that beats them and teaches her kids that her nickname is "fat whore." It's beyond me.
My two best friends are leaving got Thailand Saturday/Sunday and they'll be gone for about 28 days. I wish them luck. They've NEVER had Thai food, so they're in for a surprise. My dream $5,000 a person trip isn't to Thailand, but that's just me. This trip has caused issues amongst our friendship. The one friend who is going owes me and my guy about $3,000 and is going oon a $5,000 trip. You do the math and guess how long our friendship is going to last when they get back. She owes a lot of people money, but she'd alreayd paid for the trip when it all caught up to her.
$5,000 is tuition for private school for a year for my daughter. I wouldn't take a $5,000 trip knowing that I could give my daughter the gift of a better school. But then again, that's why I have good credit. We don't take fancy trips, own fancy cars, buy expensive clothing etc. We live in our means and pay off our debt as much as possible. It's harder this year because I'm not working and this person has decided to go on a trip rather than take care of her obligations.
I explained to her time and again that if you owe people money (no matter who it is a person or a large company) and don't pay it, then you're STEALING. If there's ever "extra" money in your account, it isn't yours, and if you spend that "extra" you're stealing because you just bounced a check. Some people really need to get hit with bad things to get it together.
I think it's out of my hands. We talked several times about the hardship she's causing others but I haven't seen her seem to care. She didn't apologise or even tell me "thank you" for not suing her etc. I talked to the other friend in our circle, and she'd tired of it too. It's not just the money, it's the carefree attitude about how her poor choices impacting others.
We were hanging out looking at shoes. I haven't bought shoes in months. I don't really need new shoes and it'd be a waste of income to buy something i don't need. I'm not havinga pity party, it's just the truth that when I had a job, I could go buy things on a whim and not worry. I can't now. She needed new shoes for her trip. I bit my tongue about her oweing me money, since a store wasn't the place to throw down about it, but THEN the bitch had the nerve to say "Aren't you going to get anything." I almost hit her in the face with a clog. You don't ask someone you owe $3,000 to why they aren't buying anything! You thank them for understanding why you need fancy walking shoes that are $50 when you owe them both your kidneys and a right leg and then buy your shoes fast and leave.
It's hard to be a good person and try to do the right things. Good people get screwed all the time because they (we) play by the rules of good person-ship, and others don't.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was in college I loaned a then-friend $150 so she could do something with her car, I don't remember the details. That was a huge amount of money to me, but she promised she'd pay it back, and I believed her. This was close to my graduation time, and she didn't pay it back. I called her several times; she swore to me the check was in the mail, but of course it never arrived.
It was a couple of years before I decided just to consider it a gift so that I could have some peace of mind.
$3,000 is a completely different story. I don't think I could ever consider that amount of money a gift unless it was to my sisters or parents and I agreed ahead of time to consider it that.
To this day I fret over not paying my share when I go out to eat with friends. I don't want anyone to feel I take advantage of them, so I tend to overpay just to be sure.
I hope your friend pays you back, but she probably won't. Perhaps a civil suit is the best course of action. It's a large enough sum to be worth that time and effort.
congrats on the potty training milestone.
ReplyDeleteresp, she owes me over 2 months rent. there is no question of what she owes me for and why or how. in my state, there are very specific laws about eviction, making it a hard and expensive process, but i think we might have to start the process if she doesn't give us some money by the end of may. when you leave the country for 28 days, you don't get paid at work, so may is looking skimpy too, june as well etc. i'm tired of being the one to say "you haven't paid us." i'm just tired of it all in general. when i mess up my budget, at least it's my fault. i'm really just angry that she's never apologized or said thank you for us not tossing her out on her ass. she's in a lot of debt and i didn't want to be the bad guy, but it's looking like i have to. i'm just hurt and angry on several levels. i'm going to get my money, but i think the friendship might be over. she really doesn't seem to care for us at all.
ReplyDeletethanks catz